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What if monogamy wasn’t the only way to have a successful relationship? Sure, monogamy is the relationship standard that has been taught for generations. But yet it’s still rare to see monogamous relationships with high success rates.
According to Truthaboutdeception.com, roughly 30% to 60% of all married individuals will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage. There has been a growing acceptance for non-traditional relationships, especially amongst younger generations. Finding couples in open relationships is becoming a more common thing.
So, what is an open relationship anyways? An open relationship is a non-monogamous relationship in which a couple consents to having other lovers. The terms and conditions vary from relationship to relationship.
Some couples only accept additional sex partners. While some couples are allowed to have more than one relationship at a time. Regardless of the type, any open relationship will need a foundation based upon communication, honesty, loyalty and trust to work.
According to a Michigan University study analyzing relationships of more than 2,000 people over the age of 25, those in open relationships were less jealous and more trusting. The overall results concluded there was no net benefit of a monogamous relationship over a non-monogamous relationship. Both relationship styles can yield the same level of satisfaction.
Many traditional people have negative things to say about open relationships and some even consider it still cheating. However, non-monogamous relationships were what communities were built on back in the day according to the book Sex at Dawn. There are nontraditional ways to have a successful relationship that are working for people in present times as well.
How to get started:
One way to start on your new journey is to read The Ethical Slut: Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities. This book will serve as your introduction to open relationships. It will help you to develop an idea of what kinds of arrangements are available.
After you have researched the mechanics of an open relationship, there are a few questions that you should ask yourself to decide if an open relationship is right for you.
1. What are my thoughts on open relationships?
2. Am I capable of having more than one relationship at a time?
3. How would I feel if my partner was seeing someone else?
4. How will my jealously play out in my relationship?
5. If I were to have an open relationship, what would be my terms and conditions?
If your answer to the first question is negative then, there is no need to continue with the rest of the questions. But if your answer to the first question is positive, then you should continue evaluating your comfort level with open relationships. If you are comfortable with your following answers, then an open relationship might be an option for you.
Discuss your findings with you partner to gage if you are on the same page. There are some open relationships that involve one partner being open and the other being monogamous. The possibilities for your ideal relationship are endless. Just be sure to find someone that shares your relationship values.
So, if your happily-ever ending includes more than one person, don’t be afraid to embrace that fantasy and go for an open relationship.